This is a metadiscursive post — a post talking about ways that people talk about “attraction” as a construct, either expanding it or shrinking it in various ways. Below the cut, I examine additive approaches in ace discourse and subtractive approaches in lesbian discourse, each used as different means toward a similar end.
Crossposted to Pillowfort. Preview image: Scissors by James Bowe, licensed under CC BY 2.0.
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If you’re out there arguing against identity policing, that’s great. While you’re at it, try making room for people like me, too.
This post explains how defenders have been lured into an essentialist framework, what the problem is, and how to fix it.
[Crossposted to Pillowfort. Preview image: Tire Track in Concrete by Darren Hester (GrungeTextures), licensed under CC BY-NC 2.0.]
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Hello, it’s me again.
We’ve been talking for several weeks now, but for the other folks just tuning in, give me a moment to establish a bit of context here.
Last month you announced the theme for your December chat event in your discord server. I have written before about where that particular phrase comes from and what’s happened because of it, so when I saw the announcement, I knew it was time to speak up. Fortunately, you facilitated a private conversation by providing me with your contact email, and that’s how this conversation began. During that conversation you worked very effectively to persuade me that a private conversation with you was a dead end. For that reason I’ve decided to write this open letter, inviting more people to contribute their perspective on the subject and join me addressing you, too.
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