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Coerced Enthusiasm

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This is why we can’t have nice things

Hozier:

“Take Me to Church” is essentially about sex, but it’s a tongue-in-cheek attack at organizations that would … well, it’s about sex and it’s about humanity, and obviously sex and humanity are incredibly tied. Sexuality, and sexual orientation – regardless of orientation – is just natural. An act of sex is one of the most human things. But an organization like the church, say, through its doctrine, would undermine humanity by successfully teaching shame about sexual orientation – that it is sinful, or that it offends God. The song is about asserting yourself and reclaiming your humanity through an act of love.

  • sex is not “an act of love” or “one of the most human things”
  • rhetoric like this is what denies me my humanity
  • rhetoric like this is what teaches me shame about my sexuality
  • when are people going to quit acting like combining sex and Church stuff is new and subversive?  ’cause it ain’t.
  • if you want to criticize oppressive organizations like the Church, there are so many ways you could do that
  • and instead you went with this
  • and in the name of being “tongue-in-cheek” and celebrating things that are already celebrated, you call me unnatural and less than human and you pat yourself on the back for it

The Shame Clause

The Shame Clause (noun): the product of the mandate that any positive comment about sex repulsion must be followed with an addendum about not shaming sexual pleasure or expression.

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On Christians & the Sanctification of Sex

I want to be brief, which means leaving out a lot of important factors in this case, but nonetheless — I want take a moment to talk about how Christians talk about sex, and how other people talk about how Christians talk about sex.

There seems to be this idea that there’s some version of Christianity out there that categorically hates sex (and I get where that’s coming from and all, given that most Christianities are very particular about what kind of sex is acceptable, but last I checked, the Shakers were dying out).  The thing is — I see people responding to this presupposition more often than I see the thing itself.  Continue reading


Christianity and Growing up Gray-Ace

Sometimes I think about my experiences in the context of what other aces have been through and have to wonder why I turned out the way I did.

Though the pressures were there, it seems like other environmental factors, modern Christianity being one, formed a kind of buffer against them — not enough to make things a cakewalk, but enough to change the course of things away from how they could have gone.  I don’t want to cast it in too flattering a light, but at the same time, this post has to acknowledge its influence, for me at least, on why I don’t hate myself as much as I might have. Continue reading