On violence

People use the word “violence” in a myriad of confusing and contradictory ways when they talk about kink, so I figure I might as well get this out of the way.  But for anyone with any kind of interest in ethics, especially any kind of interest in how to class anti-asexuality, this discussion might still be relevant.

practice what you preach

I’m not going to write much on the subject right now because I am Tired, but the day I start believing the wider BDSM community’s claims about being overall “better” about consent than average (or even overall competent at all) is the day the copilot comes back from a BDSM convention without any stories of having witnessed a consent violation.