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I want to believe you

You want to have a conversation about the valorization of “love”? Great — I hope you mean it.

[Crossposted to Pillowfort. Preview image by Tristan Chambers, licensed under CC BY-SA 2.0.]

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Equating Sex with Love is Rape Culture

I came to a startling realization the other morning.

It’s long been acknowledged in the asexual community that romantic relationships don’t have to feature sex, that people shouldn’t be censoring the f-word with the word “love” as a replacement, and that loving someone doesn’t necessarily mean having or wanting to have sex with them.  However, it seems like whenever the false equivalence between love and sex is criticized, it’s usually pointed out as simply inaccurate rather than as wrong.

This is not a post about how aces (esp. in the context of romantic relationships) feel pressured into having sex, a subject which has been covered well by others elsewhere.  This is a post about “love” as rape apologism.

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