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cw: heterosexism, cissexism, fundamentalism

Contrary to popular misperceptions of fundamentalists, then, [James] Dobson does not see sex as a necessary evil.  For Dobson, sexuality is our most primary energy.  Whereas in Dare to Discipline, he castigates the “scientific experts” whose theories of child rearing led the nation to lose confidence in its heritage of biblical wisdom… Dobson idealizes and fights to preserve the modern family created by those scientific experts he loves to hate. But the point of his nostalgia was never historical accuracy. The point was discipline.

In large measure… this discipline is about maintaining middle-class status.  Historian George Mosse has argued that the emergence of nationalism in the nineteenth century was intimately connected with white middle-class norms regarding respectable sexuality. Dobson cites Joseph Daniel Unwin… who frames the issues as quasi-mathematical law: a civilizations level of cultural attainment is inversely proportional to the openness of its sexual regulations regarding extramarital and premarital sex.

Drawing on Unwin, Dobson identifies sexuality as our deepest truth. It is the heart of personality: “Self-awareness begins with an understanding of our sexual identity… Everything we do is influenced by our gender assignment.” […] Whereas Freud presented the discipline that civilization exacts as a source of discontent, Dobson presents this discipline as true contentment. For the mechanism by which society effects sexual discipline (according to Dobson) is private property: having a mate, a family, and a home of one’s own.

Ann Burlein, Lift High the Cross, p.155-156

talk about unnecessary


You do realize that avoiding the use of gender words and instead framing who you are/are not attracted to in terms of “people with penises” and “people with vaginas” makes you more of a bigot, right?

On Cissexism and Sexual Entitlement

I’ve begun to wonder why there isn’t more attention given toward the overlap between trans and ace issues.

Connections with and comparisons to the LGBT community abound, of course, since we consider asexuality a sexual orientation, and there’s plenty of aces who are gay, bi, and trans, besides.  But that’s usually spoken about in terms of “the LGBT community” at its broadest and most general, rather than trans communities in specific.

Which I’ve been thinking about because one of the most common manifestations of cissexism, right, is the assumption that anyone can/should be able to tell someone’s gender by looking at them, plus the invasive fixation on trans people’s genitals — because cis people’s genitals are assumed to be known, right, and trans people are the aberrational mystery, the conundrum that must be resolved, because the configuration of one’s genitals is supposed to be public information, and it’s as if everyone, even strangers, is at all times being assessed as a potential sexual partner, whether they would want to be or not.

And I would think we, as aces, would have more to say about that.

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