GS: Grayromantic

Here are the results for the respondents who answered “Yes” to “Do you identify as grayromantic?”

N=284

Where did you find this survey? If you found it in multiple places, please select the place where you clicked the link and began filling it out. (281)

AVEN (3.9%)
Arocalypse (1.4%)
Discord (9.3%)
Facebook (2.8%)
Pillowfort (4.6%)
Reddit (3.2%)
Tumblr (63.3%)
Twitter (6.8%)
WordPress (2.5%)
Other (2.1%)

Spelling

Which spelling do you prefer? (282)

Graysexual (24.8%)
Greysexual (27.7%)
Gray-asexual (16.0%)
Grey-asexual (21.6%)
Another variation not listed here (4.3%)
No preference (36.2%)

How strong is this preference? (279)

Strong preference (14.0%)
Weak preference (48.7%)
No preference (37.3%)

Which spelling do you prefer? (282)

Grayromantic (33.3%)
Greyromantic (38.3%)
Gray-aromantic (10.6%)
Grey-aromantic (16.0%)
Another variation not listed here (3.9%)
No preference (27.3%)

How strong is this preference? (283)

Strong preference (19.8%)
Weak preference (52.3%)
No preference (27.9%)

Meaning of Gray-Asexuality

Gray-asexuality is the gray area of the ace umbrella. (282)

This definition is correct (45.7%)
This definition is somewhat correct (36.5%)
No opinion/Unsure (8.5%)
This definition is somewhat incorrect (7.1%)
This definition is incorrect (2.1%)

Gray-asexuality is the gray area of the asexual spectrum. (283)

This definition is correct (28.7%)
This definition is somewhat correct (29.0%)
No opinion/Unsure (5.3%)
This definition is somewhat incorrect (4.9%)
This definition is incorrect (2.1%)

Gray-asexuality is a point in between asexuality and (allo)sexuality. (282)

This definition is correct (27.3%)
This definition is somewhat correct (39.4%)
No opinion/Unsure (5.0%)
This definition is somewhat incorrect (21.3%)
This definition is incorrect (7.1%)

Gray-asexuality is defined by experiencing sexual attraction infrequently. (283)

This definition is correct (23.7%)
This definition is somewhat correct (56.2%)
No opinion/Unsure (4.2%)
This definition is somewhat incorrect (12.4%)
This definition is incorrect (3.5%)

Gray-asexuality describes aces who like sex. (283)

This definition is correct (1.8%)
This definition is somewhat correct (10.6%)
No opinion/Unsure (7.4%)
This definition is somewhat incorrect (24.7%)
This definition is incorrect (55.5%)

Meaning of Grayromanticism

Grayromanticism is the gray area of the aro umbrella. (281)

This definition is correct (47.0%)
This definition is somewhat correct (35.6%)
No opinion/Unsure (7.8%)
This definition is somewhat incorrect (7.5%)
This definition is incorrect (2.1%)

Grayromanticism is the gray area of the aromantic spectrum. (282)

This definition is correct (58.9%)
This definition is somewhat correct (30.5%)
No opinion/Unsure (5.0%)
This definition is somewhat incorrect (3.5%)
This definition is incorrect (2.1%)

Grayromanticism is a point in between aromanticism and (allo)romanticism. (282)

This definition is correct (27.7%)
This definition is somewhat correct (37.6%)
No opinion/Unsure (5.7%)
This definition is somewhat incorrect (18.1%)
This definition is incorrect (11.0%)

Grayromanticism is defined by experiencing romantic attraction infrequently. (282)

This definition is correct (24.5%)
This definition is somewhat correct (53.2%)
No opinion/Unsure (3.5%)
This definition is somewhat incorrect (14.5%)
This definition is incorrect (4.3%)

Grayromanticism describes aros who like romance. (281)

This definition is correct (1.8%)
This definition is somewhat correct (11.7%)
No opinion/Unsure (8.2%)
This definition is somewhat incorrect (27.4%)
This definition is incorrect (50.9%)

Perspectives on Gray-Asexuality

Which of these most closely reflects your perspective on identifying as gray-asexual? (282)

People who identify as gray-asexual are gray-asexual (94.3%)
People who identify as “gray-asexual” are actually (allo)sexual (0.0%)
People who identify as “gray-asexual” are actually asexual (3.5%)
People who identify as “gray-asexual” are actually either asexual or (allo)sexual (0.7%)
Unsure (1.4%)

Which of these statements sounds the most correct to you? (283)

In the ace community, gray-asexuality is generally well-understood (13.8%)
In the ace community, gray-asexuality is generally somewhat understood (56.9%)
In the ace community, gray-asexuality is generally misunderstood (14.5%)
Unsure (14.8%)

What is your perspective on the place of gray-asexuals in the ace community? (283)

Gray-asexuals deserve a place in the ace community (98.6%)
Gray-asexuals and asexuals should have separate communities (0.4%)
People should not identify as gray-asexual (0.0%)
Unsure (1.1%)

Generally speaking, how do you believe gray-asexuals fare in relation to anti-ace prejudice? (283)

Gray-asexuals do not face any prejudice related to being ace or gray-asexual (0.0%)
Gray-asexuals definitely face less prejudice than asexuals (3.2%)
Gray-asexuals face prejudice like asexuals (79.5%)
Gray-asexuals definitely face more prejudice than asexuals (4.2%)
Unsure (13.1%)

Perspectives on Grayromanticism

Which of these most closely reflects your perspective on identifying as grayromantic? (284)

People who identify as grayromantic are grayromantic (95.1%)
People who identify as “grayromantic” are actually (allo)romantic (0.0%)
People who identify as “grayromantic” are actually aromantic (2.8%)
People who identify as “grayromantic” are actually either aromantic or (allo)romantic (0.7%)
Unsure (1.4%)

Which of these statements sounds the most correct to you? (283)

In the aro community, grayromanticism is generally well-understood (11.7%)
In the aro community, grayromanticism is generally somewhat understood (53.7%)
In the aro community, grayromanticism is generally misunderstood (14.8%)
Unsure (14.8%)

What is your perspective on the place of grayromantics in the aro community? (283)

Grayromantics deserve a place in the aro community (97.5%)
Grayromantics and aromantics should have separate communities (1.1%)
People should not identify as grayromantic (0.0%)
Unsure (1.4%)

Generally speaking, how do you believe grayromantics fare in relation to anti-aro prejudice? (282)

Grayromantics do not face any prejudice related to being aro or grayromantic (0.0%)
Grayromantics definitely face less prejudice than aromantics (5.7%)
Grayromantics face prejudice like aromantics (78.4%)
Grayromantics definitely face more prejudice than aromantics (2.8%)
Unsure (13.1%)

Orientation Types

In many contexts, “sexual orientation” may be expected to encompass a person’s romantic, emotional, and sexual inclinations. How well does this expectation fit you, personally? (283)

This expectation fits me (8.5%)
This expectation somewhat fits me (19.8%)
This expectation somewhat doesn’t fit me (25.1%)
This expectation doesn’t fit me (41.0%)
Unsure (5.7%)

In ace and aro contexts, “sexual orientation” may be expected to be specifically about sexuality, not romantic or emotional inclinations. How well does this expectation fit you, personally? (282)

This expectation fits me (61.0%)
This expectation somewhat fits me (24.1%)
This expectation somewhat doesn’t fit me (4.3%)
This expectation doesn’t fit me (6.4%)
Unsure (4.3%)

Some people identify with an orientation label that is about something other than romance or sexuality. Although this is rare, it is sometimes seen in ace and aro communities. Do you identify with one of these labels? (283)

Yes (18.0%)
No (41.0%)
Unsure (27.2%)
My answer is complicated (13.8%)

Sexual Identity

Do you identify with the ace umbrella (asexual, gray-asexual, etc.)? (284)

Yes (82.0%)
No (10.9%)
Unsure (3.5%)
My answer is complicated (3.5%)

Do you identify as gray-asexual? (284)

Yes (40.8%)
No (45.8%)
Unsure (6.3%)
My answer is complicated (7.0%)

Out of this list, how would you describe yourself? (284)

Asexual (83.5%)
Gray-Asexual (46.1%)
Demisexual (19.7%)
Allosexual (10.2%)
Sexual (6.3%)
Non-Ace (7.7%)
Unsure (12.0%)
None of these (2.5%)

Out of this list, how would you describe your sexuality? (284)

Hetero (9.5%)
Gay/Lesbian (15.5%)
Bi/Pan (33.1%)
Queer (60.9%)
Unsure (13.0%)
None of these (15.1%)

Is the concept of sexual orientation useful to you? (282)

Yes, I have a sexual orientation (59.2%)
I could take it or leave it (29.1%)
No, but I go along with it (12.8%)
No, and I do not apply it to myself (1.1%)
Unsure (9.9%)
I have a different answer than the options here (3.5%)

The ace community is commonly represented by a flag with a black stripe, a gray stripe, a white stripe, and a purple stripe. Do you feel affiliated with this flag? (280)

Yes (71.8%)
No (17.1%)
Unsure (5.7%)
My answer is complicated (5.4%)

Which of these is relevant to how you sexually identify? (275)

Gender (46.2%)
Circumstances (38.5%)
Frequency (42.2%)
Uncertainty or ambiguity (46.5%)
Relationship preferences (41.5%)
Alienation (22.2%)
Community (33.1%)
None of these (16.0%)

Romantic Identity

Do you identify with the aro umbrella (aromantic, grayromantic, etc.)? (284)

Yes (93.7%)
No (0.4%)
Unsure (3.2%)
My answer is complicated (2.8%)

Do you identify as grayromantic? (284)

Yes (100%)
No (0%)
Unsure (0%)
My answer is complicated (0%)

Out of this list, how would you describe yourself? (283)

Aromantic (45.9%)
Grayromantic (93.6%)
Demiromantic (33.9%)
Alloromantic (0.7%)
Romantic (4.9%)
Non-Aro (0.0%)
Unsure (11.7%)
None of these (2.5%)

Out of this list, how would you describe yourself romantically? (284)

Hetero (11.3%)
Gay/Lesbian (19.4%)
Bi/Pan (36.6%)
Queer (56.3%)
Unsure (18.0%)
None of these (31.7%)

Is the concept of romantic orientation useful to you? (283)

Yes, I have a romantic orientation (57.2%)
I could take it or leave it (32.9%)
No, but I go along with it (11.3%)
No, and I do not apply it to myself (2.1%)
Unsure (12.0%)
I have a different answer than the options here (5.3%)

The aro community is commonly represented by a flag with two green stripes, a white stripe, a gray stripe, and a black stripe. Do you feel affiliated with this flag? (283)

Yes (58.3%)
No (14.8%)
Unsure (17.7%)
My answer is complicated (9.2%)

Which of these is relevant to how you romantically identify? (277)

Gender (50.5%)
Circumstances (52.3%)
Frequency (56.7%)
Uncertainty or ambiguity (59.6%)
Relationship preferences (57.0%)
Alienation (24.2%)
Community (29.2%)
None of these (7.6%)

Preferences & Partners

What is your partnership status? (282)

I currently have at least one romantic partner (22.3%)
I currently have at least one partner (not necessarily romantic) (10.3%)
I do not have any partners (69.5%)
Unsure (2.1%)

Which of these describes you best? (284)

I actively desire romantic partnership (10.6%)
I actively desire partnership, romantic or not (34.2%)
I actively desire partnership, as long as it’s nonromantic (8.1%)
I am indifferent to partnership (18.1%)
I am indifferent to partnership, as long as it’s nonromantic (4.2%)
If not for the partner(s) I already have, I would not be interested in partnership (6.3%)
I actively do not want any partners (7.7%)
Unsure (10.2%)

Which of these describes you best? (284)

I am sexually active (16.2%)
I am not sexually active (75.0%)
Unsure (8.8%)

Which of these describes you best, in terms of personally pursuing sexual relationships? (284)

I am interested in sex (23.6%)
I am indifferent to sex (26.8%)
I am unsure about sex (23.2%)
I am averse to sex (26.4%)

Attraction

Which of these best describes your relationship to the concept of “attraction”? (282)

I experience this clearly and can easily identify it (19.5%)
I experience something that may or may not be this, but it’s unclear (72.0%)
I do not experience attraction (3.2%)
I prefer not to talk about my experiences in this way (2.5%)
None of these (2.8%)

Which of these best describes your relationship to the concept of “sexual attraction”? (284)

I experience this clearly and can easily identify it (17.3%)
I experience something that may or may not be this, but it’s unclear (40.8%)
I do not experience this (37.7%)
I prefer not to talk about my experiences in this way (2.1%)
None of these (2.1%)

Which of these best describes your relationship to the concept of “romantic attraction”? (284)

I experience this clearly and can easily identify it (11.6%)
I experience something that may or may not be this, but it’s unclear (72.2%)
I do not experience this (7.4%)
I prefer not to talk about my experiences in this way (2.5%)
None of these (6.3%)

Which of these best describes your relationship to the concept of “nonsexual physical attraction”? (283)

I experience this clearly and can easily identify it (38.5%)
I experience something that may or may not be this, but it’s unclear (44.2%)
I do not experience this (9.2%)
I prefer not to talk about my experiences in this way (5.7%)
None of these (6.4%)

Which of these best describes your relationship to the concept of “nonromantic emotional attraction”? (284)

I experience this clearly and can easily identify it (40.5%)
I experience something that may or may not be this, but it’s unclear (45.4%)
I do not experience this (4.6%)
I prefer not to talk about my experiences in this way (6.7%)
None of these (2.8%)

Communities

Do you regularly pursue material from ace communities? (283)

Yes (65.4%)
No (17.3%)
Unsure (8.5%)
My answer is complicated (8.8%)

Do you actively participate in ace communities? (284)

Yes (33.5%)
No (45.1%)
Unsure (13.0%)
My answer is complicated (8.5%)

How would you describe your experience with ace communities? (282)

Positive (30.9%)
Mostly positive (47.5%)
Mixed (9.9%)
Mostly negative (1.4%)
Negative (0.4%)
Unsure (2.1%)
No experience (7.8%)

Are you involved with ace communities in any of the following places? (223)

Offline (20.2%)
AO3 (0.0%)
Arocalypse (5.4%)
AUREA (0.0%)
AVEN (21.5%)
Discord (35.0%)
Dreamwidth (0.0%)
Facebook (11.7%)
Instagram (9.4%)
Mastodon (0.0%)
Pillowfort (3.1%)
Reddit (24.7%)
TikTok (1.3%)
Tumblr (69.1%)
Twitter (19.3%)
WordPress (4.5%)
Youtube (1.8%)
Other (13.9%)

Do you regularly pursue material from aro communities? (284)

Yes (61.3%)
No (19.4%)
Unsure (9.9%)
My answer is complicated (9.5%)

Do you actively participate in aro communities? (284)

Yes (29.9%)
No (47.2%)
Unsure (14.1%)
My answer is complicated (8.8%)

How would you describe your experience with aro communities? (282)

Positive (35.5%)
Mostly positive (36.5%)
Mixed (9.9%)
Mostly negative (2.8%)
Negative (0.4%)
Unsure (2.8%)
No experience (12.4%)

Are you involved with aro communities in any of the following places? (213)

Offline (16.9%)
AO3 (0.0%)
Arocalypse (8.5%)
AUREA (0.5%)
AVEN (16.0%)
Discord (32.4%)
Dreamwidth (0.0%)
Facebook (7.5%)
Instagram (8.9%)
Mastodon (0.5%)
Pillowfort (2.3%)
Reddit (21.1%)
TikTok (1.4%)
Tumblr (71.4%)
Twitter (17.8%)
WordPress (2.3%)
Youtube (1.9%)
Other (9.4%)

Demographics

How old are you? (272)

Younger than 18 (8.8%)
18-25 (44.1%)
26-30 (27.2%)
31-40 (16.2%)
41-50 (2.6%)
51-60 (0.7%)
61 or older (0.4%)

What is your gender? (283)

Woman (31.8%)
Man (7.8%)
Non-binary (38.5%)
Unsure (2.1%)

Which of these is closest to how you ethnically and racially identify? (281)

Asian (11.4%)
Black, African, or African-American (3.6%)
Jewish (5.3%)
Latine (7.5%)
Middle Eastern or North African (0.7%)
Mixed-Race (8.5%)
Native, Indigenous, or First Nations (0.7%)
White (82.6%)
Write-in (3.9%)

Which continent do you currently live on? (284)

Africa (0.0%)
Asia (4.2%)
Australia (2.8%)
Europe (22.5%)
North America (66.2%)
Pacific Islands (0.0%)
South America (2.8%)
Write-in (0.7%)

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