Category Archives: Askbox Answers

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This post is being made solely to furnish a comment section for someone who’s contacted me anonymously. It concerns a prior anonymous message and a couple of other posts that I’ve made in Pillowfort. If you haven’t already been following this conversation, I don’t expect this to be of interest, but I’ll provide links to context here and quote the full text of the newest message before getting into a response.

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AA: Desire, Dating, and Size

[cw: sex talk, sex as a site of conflict, insecurity over weight]

Breanne wrote in:

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AA: 25 Years

[cw: sex as a site of conflict in a relationship, antigay/homophobic analogy, atrocious rape analogy]

This one isn’t very long, but I’m going to address this one piece by piece instead of in block form.

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AA: Order Up

Yesterday I got a message in my ask inbox — zero context — that consists solely of this one sentence: “So how is a sexual wife supposed to get her needs met?”

Zero.  Context.

*throws up hands*  I can only assume it has something to do with this.

So help me out here.  I know plenty of y’all have had run-ins with the “straights don’t have any problem with asexuals” crowd.   I know plenty of y’all have had run-ins with the “you shouldn’t bring up your asexuality to anyone but your partner” crowd.

Can we bring some of this to their doorstep?  Maybe round up some volunteers?  To put their heads together, and devise an answer, in their infinite wisdom, to make sure this question gets interpreted and addressed correctly?


AA: Questioning and Attraction

Anon wrote in:

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AA: Questioning a Change

[cw: relationship conflict, explicit sex talk]

Mary wrote in:

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AA: Ace/Non-Ace Relationship Ambiguity

[cw: sex, in specifics]

BD wrote in:

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AA: Sex Conflict

[cw: sex talk (somewhat explicit), resentment/compromise talk, + brief CSA mention]

Jane wrote in:

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AA: Tone

“Husband who wants to understand” wrote in:

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AA: followup

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