You may have heard about the anti-allosexual problem in the aro community, so as something of a thought exercise, if there were anti-ace problem, too, how would that manifest? How would it be identified? What kind of form would it take?
Hypothetically. And in case it needs to be said: I do mean these questions seriously.
What would it look like for there to be an anti-ace problem in the aro community? Would it be considered bad form to even ask?
How blatant would it be? Would anti-ace rhetoric hide itself among otherwise legitimate points and arguments? Is it only anti-ace if it’s direct and naked in the light of day? Just how flayed of sympathetic motivations and understandable frustrations and well-but-also mitigating circumstances would it need to be to qualify?
Would asexuality become a detriment to credibility? Would aros emphasize the asexuality of aro aces they disagree with and deemphasize the asexuality of aro aces they do agree with? Would ace blogs receive hatemail for tagging aro-related posts as aro? Would ace blogs receive hatemail for promoting Aro Spectrum Awareness Week?
Would aros accuse the ace community of things it didn’t do? Would aros misrepresent ace history? If that happened, would pointing this out be treated as whiny and irrelevant? Or would speaking up about it be treated as itself a slight against aros?
Would there be aros afraid to speak, scared to get involved with the aro community at all? Would there be aces hesitant to get back into ace blogging at all, in part because of aro-ace conflicts threatening to reopen old wounds?
Would there be allosexuals putting words in our mouths? Would terminology that was popularized by anti-ace bloggers end up suffusing the aro community? Would the strawmanning phrase “dirty allos” — avoided by aces, beloved by allos who hate aces — find a way to resurface, too?
Would aces be talked about as a privileged class? Would people compare aces to cis people? Would allosexuals tell aces that they categorically hold power over them (as aces)? Would allosexuals try to silence aces? Would they outright say things like “aces, shut up”?
Or would it look like something else entirely, with nothing to do with any of these things?
If there isn’t an anti-ace problem in the aro community, then I’d hate to see what that would look like if there were. But hypothetically, if there were: how would you know?