abuse spans all

Okay yeah and branching off that last post, how about this wild idea: Abusers… are… unreasonable.  They do unreasonable things.  They have unreasonable expectations.  They are unreasonable.  So I’ve got no clue what some people are on about whenever they say something like “imagine a parent getting mad at their kid for X, that doesn’t happen because that’s just ridiculous.”  Hey, real fun fact: “it’s ridiculous” has never been enough to stop humanity from doing cruel and violent things.  Holding that expectation at all is ridiculous.  And more importantly here, it begs the question: Why are you expecting abusive behavior to be reasonable?  Why are you talking like there exists any abuse where you’d look at it and say, “oh, yeah that makes sense”?

Do me a favor and pay attention to that.  If someone’s position is that real abuse is “reasonable,” that’s the kind of thing that calls a person’s entire politics into question.

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2 responses to “abuse spans all

  • Libris

    I got caught up on ‘but you *would* say ‘oh that makes sense” until I figured out that you didn’t mean ‘that is a common pattern of abuse’. (Although even there I have a ridiculous anecdote, which I don’t quite feel safe publicising yet, but is hilarious and sad.)

    Otherwise, yeah, a common plague.

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