white ace stuff again

So, uh, remember this conversation?  And this part?  From when I said “White aces need to talk to each other about this”?  Yeah.  So.  I came across this post and that’s immediately what I thought about, ’cause…

I wish every white person at one of these protests would commit to doing one-on-one relational work with other whites to deal with their racism

This frustrates me because I’m in a very “liberal” academic space and my white classmates are always having lil breakout groups to discuss allyship, meetings to talk about how they can support black and brown efforts and organizing

But they seem to have zero idea how to actually talk about racism to other white people who don’t already agree with them

And from there another person reblog-commented with a story about trying to talk to another White person about a racial issue & it going better than expected, followed by some general tips for the same kind of general situation.  They seem like mostly decent ideas, and the one I want to highlight is this one:

1) Have people re-examine their own thinking. Don’t tell them how to think or how you think. Ask them questions that have them explore their thought process.

…And, um.  It depends on what kind of mess you’re dealing with, but I think that’s a set of tactics worth keeping in mind, and it’s this kind of thing that has helped me… manage some vile conversations, without getting as deep in worst case scenario as it could’ve, I suppose.

And if White aces want to do something about White aces making the ace community alienating and unsafe, I think working on productive confrontation techniques is a necessary step.

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One response to “white ace stuff again

  • Vesper

    thanks for not only extracting something that i felt comfortable reblogging from that post, but also for relating it back to how white aces can and should confront other white people about racism. the post in question struck a cord with me and i wanted to reblog it, but at the same time i didn’t feel comfortable with some of the tips. namely the one that says “Stay calm. Like 100% be calm.” i find it extremely annoying and unreasonable when someone expects me to stay 100% calm and how when i can’t do that, i suddenly lose credibility in the eyes of people, so that’s not exactly advice that i’m comfortable passing on to others…. on the other hand, the part that you quoted is a tactic that i try myself when i have the patience for it and is something that i’m comfortable advising others try as well.

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