After having seen this:
…and now this:
…I have to wonder what’s going through people’s heads, that they’d position “stone butch” and “soft butch” at spectral poles, as if stone butch is just the extreme end of butch expression and doesn’t mean anything else beside that. It would almost make me doubt my sense of the term was grounded in anything after all, if I hadn’t managed to read what little I did of Stone Butch Blues. Has the meaning shifted, since then? I hope it hasn’t.
Cuz, look. Out of the unintelligible soup of gendersense in my mug, I’ve picked out a kind of loose connection with butchness — that I feel hesitant naming that way, because I feel like I don’t have the skill set or hardness or the qualifications to claim it. So the concept of partial/medium butchness, or soft butch, is appealing for that reason. Meanwhile, I feel kind of stone, too. Not stone as in sexually giving or whatever, but stone as in “don’t touch me, gtfo.”
And so, seeing them positioned as mutually exclusive like this? Is… confusing. Like apparently I must be reading myself wrong, one way or the other, or both.
But you know what, forget that, suck it. Softstone is a viable combination and I’m not ready to let anyone take it from me.