AA: Order Up

Yesterday I got a message in my ask inbox — zero context — that consists solely of this one sentence: “So how is a sexual wife supposed to get her needs met?”

Zero.  Context.

*throws up hands*  I can only assume it has something to do with this.

So help me out here.  I know plenty of y’all have had run-ins with the “straights don’t have any problem with asexuals” crowd.   I know plenty of y’all have had run-ins with the “you shouldn’t bring up your asexuality to anyone but your partner” crowd.

Can we bring some of this to their doorstep?  Maybe round up some volunteers?  To put their heads together, and devise an answer, in their infinite wisdom, to make sure this question gets interpreted and addressed correctly?

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3 responses to “AA: Order Up

  • K

    if by “the ‘the straights don’t have any problem with asexuals’ crowd” u mean the ppl who argue that aces aren’t LGBT, i think they don’t argue that straight ppl have ZERO problems with aces so much as, aces aren’t systematically oppressed by straight ppl for being ace. there’s obviously discrimination and other nastiness on an inter-personal level and i’ve seen many of them acknowledge that.

    i think it’s important for everyone, whether non-ace or ace, to understand that no one is entitled to their partner’s bodies. i think you’ve written on this subject before? but i also don’t think “hey your partner does not owe you sex under any circumstances” is a very important issue and i don’t think its an ace-specific issue. idk maybe this comment makes zero sense who knows

    • Coyote

      1) This post (specifically, the idea that I can’t answer the original question myself) is sarcastic. I forgot to add a sarcasm tag, so I’ll go do that.

      2) By “the ‘the straights don’t have any problem with asexuals’ crowd” I mean the “the straights don’t have any problem with asexuals” crowd.

  • Vesper

    “the more I get asked this kind of question the less I’m inclined to even try to be nice”

    it’s ridiculous that you’re (we’re) forever expected to cast aside our own feelings and respond in a “nice” way, but still get vilified regardless… *sigh* [/venting]

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