author of A Field Guide to Creepy Dom*: It can be really hot, at first, because let’s face it– none of us fantasize about negotiations and limits.
me: First of all, speak for yourself, but second of all — what if we did, though? What if we changed how we think about “negotiations” and “limits”? What if we were no longer conceptualizing them as an un-fun technical obligation, a thing for getting over with? What if we centered and celebrated and embraced communication about preferences as a treasured part of getting to know your partner and yourself? What if that was something to look forward to? What if that was part of the fantasy?
What if I wrote a flash fiction piece that was just about a couple discussing what they wanted?
*cw for rape and abuse narratives