“12. the survivor’s needs are always more important than the perpetrator’s needs”
Really? Really? What, you think there are too many people supporting survivors? That’s what we’re worried about?
There were some worthwhile things on this list and then I got to this and it just gave everything a cast of “abusers are the REAL victims here!”
1. — yeah, that one’s a problem
2. — um
3. — yep, faulty
4. — mm
5. — yep, wrote about that
6. — yeah not good, although I do question why public shaming is on the list with murder and imprisonment
7. — well. I know this is just a brief list without elaboration, but book recommendations would be good.
8. — eh yeah that’s patronizing like people can’t know what’s best for themselves and doesn’t really account for other reasons someone might stay, like the abuser having control over their finances or the possibility that they’ll kill them, but instead you went with #9
9. — who cares
10. — mm yes that can be a problem when the list lacks detail/explanations, like uh, this one
11. — admittedly abusers can take advantage of faith in these so it’s worth being careful
13. — I mean, that’s not really what I focus on, but, what are you suggesting?
14. — see #5
15. — mm
So some good things and some iffy things and then just, #12 blows it all out of the water.