For whatever reason, I haven’t found anything that would answer this question, so I figure I’ll just put it here on my blog.
First, carefully read through this list:
They are controlling.
They feel entitled.
They consider themselves superior.
They are manipulative.
They strive to have a good public image.
They say their behavior is asked for.
They have an explanation for why they’re not doing anything wrong.
They are possessive of their partners and feel a sense of ownership.
It’s probably obvious to some of you where I got this list, but we’ll get to that later.
Then, give me your answer to these questions:
Avoiding anything that fits the descriptions above, what does it mean to be a dom? Without or aside from these elements, what would dom “headspace” look like? What would motivate someone to call themselves a dom? And what would “domming” consist of?
Or in other words: without these things, what else is left?