[cw: self-harm talk, D/s and pain play talk]
Here’s a fun question.
(That’s false. This is not fun.)
If we acknowledge 1) self-harm in relation to deliberate physical damage, ex. cutting, and 2) self-harm in relation to otherwise neutral pursuits, ex. sex as self-harm, then
what would constitute self-harm within kinky contexts?
If we acknowledge 1) self-harm with one actor / direct self-harm, and 2) self-harm with more than one actor / indirect self-harm, then
in what ways or under what conditions could doms, “sadists,” and tops fill the role of second actor? What about subs, “masochists,” and bottoms?
What are the limitations of “consent” in relation to sex-as-self-harm and and seeking replicas of former abusers, and to what extent does that translate over to kink?
I’m asking because I don’t know.