Standing alone, the blog post itself raises some issues for me in terms of how the criticism of the advice is presented. Very rarely is any timeframe for the posts referenced given, which can be misleading as it does not intuitively indicate where the advice giver may have found growth in the intervening time
That makes it sound like you expect that post to provide a comprehensive review of each individual blog and/or blogger.
The post isn’t about assessing the blogs as entities unto themselves. It’s about assessing specific pieces of advice.
Do you just want me to add some date notes beside each link, or is there something else you think I should have done as well?
There is very minimal presented to suggest a better way to handle answering the questions being asked
Well, there’s the host of links I placed under the prescriptivism header, as well as the related reading links at the bottom, and I recently wrote this guide on identifying abuse, so… what else do you have questions about?
Additionally, there is only occasionally reference to any discussion that may have already occurred around the relevant ask – for instance, the post referenced by Neth, which was criticized here, is mentioned again, which is fine. However, this is presented without linking to our response here on the blog, found here,
Scroll down on that post of mine and you can find it in the comment section.
Think I should have linked it in the body of the post itself? You know what, I agree. My bad.
There. I went and edited that post, and now it’s linked right up front.
At the peak of productivity on the blog, the number of posts receiving notifications at any one time is overwhelming. It is not only recent posts, but posts from several days, weeks, or even months ago that circulate. To try and keep up with every reblog, every set of comments and tags, to search through all the notifications to find the rare @ mention, would be almost unmanageable
That’s a big problem with the Tumblr platform — it’s terrible for keeping track of discussion.
(I’m not criticizing y’all for being on tumblr, I just hate that so much of ace community activity is focused over there where discussion logistics are a nightmare. Long-standing complaint of mine.)
So where there is criticism to be discussed, the best way to ensure it is seen is to send us a message.
Through a messaging system as restrictive and unreliable as the Tumblr ask system? And then have to comb through your posts every day for a reply, or else create an account so that you can reply privately?
You know what might be handy, though? A collective blog email address. If y’all already have one, can you direct me to where it’s listed?
That being said, when I went to go look at the post, I could not help but look through the rest of Coyote’s blog (theacetheist) because, as I said, I feel that context is important. And unfortunately, the context I found there was more disheartening than encouraging. There was criticism over our lack of a response to the original post, with the caveat assumption that we “don’t pay attention” to them.
It’s true that I had to be reminded about how little time you all have for these things, and that time was the likeliest factor. Sorry about that.
They used less than kind language in reference to , and they repeatedly emphasized, in a fairly dismissive manner, that they had no expectation that we would respond at all, let alone find any impetus to change the way in which we approach our advice giving.
On me not expecting a reply: That’s partly based on my experience with not being a very widely-read blog, where I feel like I’m rarely heard. And that expectation was also partly formed by the response Kiowa recently gave Hezekiah for expressing their concern, where I got the impression that she’s willing to ignore people if they criticize her more than once in a way she disagrees with. It’s pretty cool to find out that’s not true.
On me not expecting change: Well, given how Kiowa’s sticking to the main thing I criticized her for, Filbert stated her agreement with her, and you’re not distancing yourself from any of that… looks like I was right so far?
In which case, what is the point of further slandering us?
I’m going to ignore your interesting use of the word slander to try and answer this, because the point was… well, to communicate with people I regularly communicate with about the state of affairs of the ace-related conversations I involve myself in? I mean, that’s… a really normal use of my blog for me? I’m not sure what you were expecting here.
In case you’re interested, it was kind of an addendum to this post, where I expressed surprise (in a positive way!) at the way my post was being received by other ace advice bloggers. I was thinking about whether I might get a response from y’all only because recent examples from y’all were on there several times — which wasn’t a calculated move or anything, but it was something that stood out to me when I stepped back and looked at the finished post.
Are we not ultimately people too?
You are, ultimately, people too. I’m not sure why you’re asking that, but yeah.
Shouldn’t we be given a chance to learn and grow?
Ta da! Here’s one right now.
People claim that these issues have been raised before but do not provide links to where those discussions have previously occurred
I’m guessing you’re referring to Sciatrix’s comment here.
If this comment is your way of saying “I want a link to what she’s talking about”: here’s one.
As for the referenced post itself – it does not exist in a vacuum either, and I find the environment from which it comes to be troubling, because it does not to me speak only of wanting to make a better and stronger community through education.
And you reached this conclusion because… what, because I don’t take attention for granted? You think I posted that list of examples for some other reason than building a better and stronger community?
Instead of decrying one way of phrasing something, why not offer an alternative that is more favorable, and explain why?
You mean that thing that’s already been done, which I linked to in my original post in the first place? Or do you have questions about a specific example? Feel free to post a comment so we can work that out. You don’t need a WordPress account to post here, by the way — it’ll go into comment moderation at first, but I always approve everything that’s not spam.