Let me state this outright: if you don’t know a thing about recognizing abuse, you shouldn’t be running an ace advice blog. If you don’t know anything about the makings of a healthy relationship beyond “Communication is key!” and you’ve never bothered to even think about how to distinguish normal interpersonal conflict from emotional abuse tactics in everyday life, you shouldn’t be giving people relationship advice. If you’re not prepared to give ethical and informed relationship advice, then you’re not equipped for handling a significant chunk of the workload involved in running an ace advice blog.
If you don’t know the first thing about picking up on clues, condemning psychological coercion, and helping people out of abusive situations, then don’t set yourself up as an authority and advisor to aces who don’t know where else to go.
If you can’t identify emotional abuse and unsafe situations, you shouldn’t be running an ace advice blog.
Let me clarify. Not having an in-depth understanding of these subjects doesn’t mean that you’re bad. It doesn’t mean you’re a failure. It doesn’t mean you have nothing to offer the community. It means running an ace advice blog isn’t what you have to offer the community.
There are a lot of things you can do to help your fellow aces.
It doesn’t have to be that.
Make sure you know what you’re doing, or quit running an ace advice blog.