I’m not sure I want to say what finally convinced me to type this out, so… I’m not sure where to start.
…Let me try it this way.
Several months ago, I was reminded of the song One Night in Bangkok. I was reminded that I used to love that song, and I was reminded of what I liked about it so much, and I realized that it would be a convenient example for explaining the manifestations of racism that pose particular temptation to White aces.
(I didn’t make the post at the time because I didn’t think I was equipped, as a White person, to write an adequate public explanation of Why This Song Is Racist, and I couldn’t find an adequate public explanation written by anyone else.)
But the point I wanted to make is that, despite all the writing that has been done on asexuality and race, White aces don’t seem to fully grasp what it means to say “the asexual community has a racism problem.”
Because I know there are a lot of well-meaning White aces who think, “Well, yes, everywhere has a racism problem. It’s not just the asexual community.”
Right, but also wrong.
Right because White aces aren’t the only people doing racist things. Duh.
Wrong because that’s a mental dodge and because that characterizes racism-in-general as synonymous and interchangeable with the-racism-of-White-aces when, at this point, I’m thinking, it’s not.
The latter draws on the former, no doubt about that, but it’s not simply a matter of overlap (ex. “this racist person is White and also an ace”) because being asexual, and viewing the world through the lens of both-asexual-and-White, affects what kinds of racism filters through as the most convenient to us as White people.
What I’m saying is that as much as there’s a White gaze, there’s also, within that, an asexual White gaze, an asexual Whiteness, and an asexual way of being racist, and I may not know how to go about this exactly, but I think White aces need to have a conversation with each other about that.