[ (parental) abuse & homophobia tw ]
When I was a kid, I remember reading the summary for a novel about a little girl whose abusive father would beat her sister and ignore the main character completely, making her feel like a piece of the furniture. I remember the summary saying something about how she wished he would pay attention to her, too. I didn’t understand why she would feel that way at the time.
More recently, I’ve been thinking about how some aces rhetorically position LG/b identities as more socially legitimate than asexuality, act like gay people (specifically) are somehow privileged over them (ignoring gay aces ofc), and outright crave the same “level” of recognition as gay people have, in spite of the fact that most of that recognition is violent. Because, I guess, some of us hate being eclipsed and ignored and gaslit so much that sometimes, the idea of direct, explicit malice can sound validating.
…And now, I think I understand what that book was talking about.