The logic goes like this. You may feel asexual when you’re single, but when you’re in a romantic relationship, you’re as allo as everybody else.
This is a case that was made to me during an online argument a few months back. As best I can figure, it relies on at least three unspoken requirements:
- Strong emotional bonds only form within the bounds of romantic relationships. No one forms strong emotional bonds with their friends.
- Demis experience sexual attraction to 100% of the people they’re emotionally invested in.
- Demis start experiencing sexual attraction as soon as a romantic relationship begins. The exact moment that they update their Facebook relationship status, a switch flips and their partner is now sexy.
- Bonus: aromantic and nonamorous demisexuals don’t exist.