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Hahaha is it really any wonder that I’m still ready to throttle someone over that “we should celebrate our bodies” comment, is it really, is it really.
‘Cause even if you ignore the outstanding anti-ace/anti-repulsion mentality of putting a cap limit on how many of us are allowed to exist (and/or suggesting there are too many of us already) as well as implicitly advocating that people pressure themselves to be more sexual and cave in to grooming, even ignoring that —
it should be obvious what’s wrong with saying “you’re not supposed to feel body diaspora, and if you do, you’re doing existence wrong.” What the heck is that? What the heck is that? Why even bother putting up a smokescreen when you could just comment, “I hate trans, asexual, and sex-repulsed people” …?
To hell with “celebrating our bodies” if you’re going to weaponize it like that. To actual hell with it. I don’t want to “celebrate my body,” Jesus Christ. It’s just a body. It’s fearfully and wonderfully just a body. And all this pressure to “celebrate” it (’cause this comment is just one of many of its kind) has always felt weirdly like it’s more about appeasing other people than it is about doing what’s comfortable for me. It’s coercion with a smiling face, a positive guise for shame and obedience and towing the line. It’s someone handing me a prescribed, narrow role to play and labeling it “for your own good.”
And the more I think about it, the more it’s starting to sound like gaslighting.
Take your celebration and get out. Just get out.