Two are short, so I’m grouping this morning’s bunch together. A Catholic pastor, verdict: indeterminate/negative. A Church of the Nazarene pastor, verdict: positive. A Lutheran pastor, verdict: negative.
The Catholic first:
Thank you for inquiring, Mr? or Ms? S.
You can leave my gender out of this.
Since these are rather complex issues, I’d prefer to dialogue with you in person.
I’d prefer to not.
However, in brief, being that we are part of the Catholic Church, under the guidance of the Holy See and in communion with our Holy Father, our stance is that of the Catholic Church.
Again, thanks for asking.
…Well what does that mean? Since when does the Catholic Church have a specific stance on asexuality? Or is this answering the part about nonsexual marriages?
…I’m not aware of Catholicism’s opinion on that, but I’m not hopeful. Hezekiah informs me that Catholicism does not approve of nonsexual marriages (because marriage is for procreation), something I’d heard before but wasn’t sure about. Well, count this one as a loss, then. Apparently not necessarily? I don’t know at this point. The Bard argues in the comment section that Catholic nonsexual marriages are feasible, which may be true, but I’m assuming that this priest was implying otherwise.
The same pastor cc’d some other people from his church, and one of them responded to say:
That’s not one I’ve encountered though I guess shouldn’t be surprised.
Good response Padre.
Anyway, here’s the email from the next guy, who’s the lead pastor at a Nazarene Church.
Hi, I hope you are having a blessed morning and I hope that I get an opportunity to meet you.
You’re nice, but no thanks.
I want to you to know that I will love you no matter your orientation. For the asexuality stance, I will love you. I don’t see any reason that it is out of the will of God biblically.
If a man and a woman choose to marry into an asexual or celibate relationship and adopt or have children, Praise God.
This is actually kind of surprising, considering the church described itself as “family-oriented” on one page.
Sorry this is short :-)
I hope I get to meet and talk to you more
See, look, folks. It’s not that hard.
At this point, I’m worried that all the “you should come talk to me in person” dudes (and it’s all been dudes, for the record) might just be trying to trap me in public so they can tell me I’m a lost soul. Why else would they refrain from giving their opinion, when it’s so easy to give the opinion “we don’t care, God loves you, do what you want, it’s not a problem” …? I’m not hopeful that that’s what I’m going to hear if you think it’s too difficult to say online.
Last and least, here’s the response from the Lutheran pastor.
Good morning, “S”:
I commend you for your honesty and your desire to know more about how the Bible addresses asexuality. The two web links which you gave me were very general, and in fact, muddied the waters rather than clear them for me.
Given that he doesn’t specify what part he doesn’t understand, I’m assuming this is just one of those general “This is confusing because I didn’t know humans could be this way” responses.
Rather than give you sweeping generalities on asexuality, what do you want to know about your specific questions which apply to you?
Regarding, your other questions–
“Also, what is this church’s position on permanent celibacy/singlehood and celibate marriages?” Permanent celibacy and singlehood has always been a Biblical response to one’s sexuality, which does not allow itself to be expressed in a God pleasing manner.
…This is confusing, since I don’t think a priest would say that all human sexuality “does not allow itself to be expressed in a God pleasing manner” (unless he were a Shaker or something — but this guy’s a Lutheran, and his online bio says that he’s married and has children, so that’s not it). I assume what he meant here is that, if one has a deviant sexuality/a sexuality which would be sinful to express, permanent celibacy and singlehood would be “a Biblical response”. Setting aside the anti-gay vibes in that, it doesn’t sound like he understood the point of the question. I’m not asking about people who stay single in order to resist what their sexuality compels them to do. I’m asking about people who stay single because that is what their sexuality compels them to do.
Celibate marriages are oxymoronic as the Biblical definition of marriage has as a part of it, the opportunity to procreate between a male and a female.
“Do you believe that all lay people are called to marry and raise children?” As long as the marriage is between a male and a female. If the individual is single they can raise children, of course.
So… the answer is yes. Yes, you believe that all people are called to marry and raise children, unless they’re gay.
I would look forward to speaking with you face to face, if possible.
Don’t count on it.
This is the second failed verdict for the Lutherans. Y’all better step up your game.