Hey there, my multiple-gender-loving friends. You’re all lovely people. Keep rocking on with your bad selves.
There’s just one little request I need to make of y’all. When you’re talking about your orientation, please avoid saying things like “hearts, not parts” or that, for you, attraction is “about the person, not the gender”. I am a person on the asexual spectrum, and I love people regardless of gender as well… and I’m pretty sure that’s not what you’re getting at, since the reason you identify as bi, pan, or what have you, I assume, is because you have a different experience than I do as a ???romantic gray-a.
I, too, would date or fall in love with someone because of what’s in their soul, not because of what’s in their pants — but that’s just because I hate genitalia in general. For me, it’s a perspective of hearts, not parts as well, because those kinds of “parts” don’t appeal to me in the first place.
So, while that kind of talk isn’t bad, per se, it’d be nice of you to keep in mind that it’s not a very precise way to describe the experience of feeling romantic or sexual attraction to multiple genders if it can also apply to a person of whom that is not true.
Please inform your peers of this consideration if the opportunity arises.